Can you get STDs from Oral?

Some people think,"I won't catch a disease if we just indulge in oral sex." Sorry, in terms of disease, oral sex is as risky as regular sex.  Even though you're not exchanging bodily fluids through your genitals, your mouth is as just as ready to be an STD sandwich. New research shows it can even cause cancer. Here are some things to consider when you’re going down.

Warts and cancer
Just last year—in addition to gonorrhea, chlamydia, herpes, HIV/AIDS, HIV, trichomoniasis, syphilis, and hepatitis—HPV, aka genital warts, reared its ugly head in throat cancer statistics. Since the ‘70s, cases of the cancer in the ol’ pipes have risen 39 percent, and doctors found HPV, contracted through oral sex, to be the cause. 

Dam it!
One way doctors are recommending to prevent the spread of STDs through oral sex is to use a condom the way a dentist uses a dental dam when you are getting a root canal. Whoah! That doesn't sound too sexy, does it? The instructions are to hold the dental dam over your mouth—not over his johnson or her va-jay-jay—and proceed from there. Honestly, if you have to go through all that, it's better to avoid it altogether,  until you know each other and even have seen medical reports that  you both check out OK for STDs.

Don't let it sit
Stanford University recommends you “swallow or spit, just don’t let it sit.” You’ve got to limit your mucus membrane (mouth, penis, and vag) contact with semen. In the case of females, if he does finish in your mouth, get rid of it fast. Your best bet is to have him make a big splash elsewhere. Ask your partner to give you the head’s up when he’s about blow. Then, offer him a sexy alternative space to show off his finale. 

Know each other
So unless you feel comfortable getting out the rubber-works when it's time to go down, my advice is to only do it with people you know and trust are disease-free. Since Bill Clinton did not think oral sex was technically sex, people have followed suit and think, "I won't have sex with them because that might be risky but I'll do oral with them because it's safe." Not!!

This is one of the reasons I advocate sexual relations in the context of a loving and caring relationship--not just getting your rocks off with a stranger in the heat of the moment. It may be fun for a few minutes and you may pay for it for the rest of your life.

Why women need cuddling

I have hear men complain that they don't understand why women always want to cuddle. One man asks: "What is it with all this cuddling my girlfriend wants to do? I don't understand the whole idea about cuddling." 

Cuddling releases pair-bonding hormone
Lots of men don't understand why women like to cuddle. But they need to understand that the act of cuddling releases a hormone calledoxytocin, sometimes called the "cuddling hormone.” Oxytocin is responsible for pair bonding, which means it makes the cuddling couple feel closer and more intimate. It helps to create a bond between a man and a woman. 

Survival
In survival terms, a woman wants to create this pair bond in order to get the man to commit to her and their offspring. Even if your woman isn’t trying to marry you and start bearing your babies, she is likely still drawn to create an emotional bond with you and this kind of physical intimacy is a good way to do it.

Men's brain chemicals
The reason men don't cuddle that much relates to the hormones men's brains release after sex. As a man has an orgasm, a variety of brain chemicals are released including the hormone prolactin. Prolactin has a strong connection to sleep so its presence is probably responsible for a man’s tendency to roll over and go to sleep after sex. The release of prolactin also indicates the beginning of the “recovery time” that men have to take before having sex again. Women often don’t require any such time-out after having an orgasm.

Feel-good hormones
Oxytocin is released in men's brains, just as it is in the female brain, along with other feel-good hormones that will leave you feeling happy and less stressed. A 2006 study by the Berman Center for Women's Health in Chicago showed that couples who regularly indulge in spontaneous, non-sexual physical affection are more satisfied with their relationships. 

So cuddle if you would like your woman to feel closely connected and peaceful with you. You will see the benefits in terms of increased sexual satisfaction as she appreciates you more for understanding her cuddling needs.

 

Advice: Being good at sex

"I’m 39 and have not had sex for 8 years. Before that I had only a few sex partners, though one in my early twenties was my partner of 3 years. In my mid twenties I explored my sexuality and had relationships with women. Since my late twenties I have ‘come back’ to heterosexuality, though it has always seemed more in my mind than anything else because I have not had a relationship nor sex for 6 years.

"A bad break up kept me out of the game for a long time but since I’ve moved on from that I just haven’t met anyone I’ve liked and wanted to pursue a sexual relationship with. As a result, my self-esteem has taken a dive in recent years. I have had people interested in me during this time but I haven’t felt the same. However, I met someone 2 weeks ago, It was never going to be a serious relationship, he is much younger (27) and we have very little in common but we liked each other, so why not have some fun.

"We had sex for the first time on Fri and it was a disaster. I had not prepared myself (nor him!) for the fact that I would be so out of practice, inexperienced and not very good at all! It was embarrassing and a bit of a shock to me but I’ve since tried to get my head around it - of course I’m not going to be the great lover I imagined with so little practice under my belt! However, I’m now struggling with self esteem again.

"When I begin a new relationship, not only am I going to be thinking about the usual - am I interesting? Am I funny? But now - what happens when he discovers I’m terrible in bed and totally inexperienced? Obviously the way to get better at something is to practice but I’ve never slept around, picked up guys in bars. etc. The only sexual relationships I’ve had have been with people I care deeply about.

"During sex last Friday, the main problem for me was keeping the rhythm going so that we were moving together, I’d suddenly lose the pace or rhythm. Neither of us came and it was embarrassing. So, this may seem a ridiculous question but how can I get better at it without having to put myself through this embarrassing time after time. Is there anything I can practice on my own or do with the person I’m in bed with to help me? (He held my hips to help me move with him but it still didn’t work).

"A loving and understanding partner to help me, would obviously be the ideal solution, but in the absence of that is there anything I could do practically while I’m not in a relationship - other than sleeping around - or anything I can read that will help me? I’m open to any help and suggestions. Thanks, xxxxxxxxxx"

My Advice:
1. You have only known this guy for two weeks. If you are the type of person (like many) that needs to get to know someone and feel connected, before you sexually respond, two weeks is not enough time. Combine this with the apprehension you must have felt after not being in bed with anyone for a while and it’s no wonder that you wound up in your uncomfortable situation.

2. Rhythm is not always an automatic thing. You both need to find a rhythm that works for each other. If he gets caught up in his own rhythm instead of falling into yours, of course you will become mismatched as you try to catch up. Connected, comfortable, passionate, sex requires patience, sometimes. It also requires attraction. If the attraction isn't there, then why even bother? You will be using each other as human blow-up dolls.

3. Do you understand what you like during sex? While you may not have had much experience, it doesn’t stop you from knowing what turns you on. Tell the person you are in bed with what you like.

4. If you have to work that hard at it, it is obvious to me that you have not met the right person. This is because when you are truly interested and are in love with that person, all the questions about right and wrong technique fly out the window. You just want to be with them physically and your movements become natural as you enjoy yourself with them.

When it comes to being with someone, I suggest -
1. Take your time before you have sex. You are a person that needs to have sex with someone she knows and feels at ease with. Just having sex for fun, as you did the other night, is not your style, so no wonder it didn't work
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2. Tell you sex partner that it’s been a while and to take their time. They’ll probably be turned on by this.

3. Have fun with foreplay. This again comes naturally when you really like a person. However, if you are going through the motions because you think this is what you should do, it won't work either.

4. Relax. When you give off tense vibes is kills the sexual pleasure for both.

5. Maybe you like women better and that is why sex with a man does not come naturally to you.

If your self-esteem is tied to your sexual abilities, you’re putting yourself in an awkward position. You won't have good sex because you are so worried about how bad you are in bed. Then you will be bad in bed and your self-esteem will plummet further. Then you will be afraid next time the sexual opportunity crops up.

I realize that the reason you haven't had sex for a long time is because you are recovering from a break-up. But you can set yourself free from past relationships, have closure, and move on. This will give you the freedom to enjoy yourself--with or without sex, with a man, or possibly in your case, a woman. And it may just be that: Being with a man does not turn you on and therefore it is a struggle instead of your natural instinct taking over.

4 or 8 inches: Does size matter?

All the penis enlarging products that flood the market, from pumps to pills and stretching make me believe that men live in constant fear that their manhood is not big enough. What they don't realize is that a recent study, involving 800 men of all shapes, races, and sizes, concluded that the average penis size is 5.5 inches.

 That's not gigantic, is it? So relax if you are not packing like a porn star.

It's how you work it
I have talked with a lot of women who say things like, "It's not the size, it's what you do with it." Or "I've been with men who are huge but they didn't know how to satisfy a woman. It was just bang, bang, bang and all I was getting was sore." Another said, "I'd rather have a large one but it better be attached to a man who knows what he's doing."

Many women find that a man who is built smaller will compensate with other lovemaking skills. They become more proficient with their tongues and hands. There are so many ways to make love, why think it all hinges on a 7" magic wand? So men, don't hinge your self-esteem on your penis. At least it doesn't matter all that much to the average woman.

I have found that the average women simply doesn't care about size--except if it is so small it feels like a noodle in a wind tunnel. Even then, if a woman loves you, she will find other ways of having physical fun with you. Once in a while someone will say it is very important. But if a woman knows her own body, she will be able to extract pleasure from even a small penis that's not fully tumescent.

For many women, penises are interesting and they are turned on by feeling them get hard. But women care more about whether you wash yourself and smell good, rather than what it looks like.

Quality time
In a recent poll taken among women, 82% agree that the quality of sex is much more important than quantity. In fact, many well hung men are known to be lousy lovers. All they think they need to do is flash it at the woman and she's supposed to get all weak in the knees. And because they are so proud of their length and girth, they think the woman will have an orgasm just looking at it. So they don't do anything but hump away until they come and the woman is left with a big question mark in her head and a stretched out va-jay-jay. However, a penis of any size, if used properly, can satisfy her and provide her with passion and lust.

Mr. Right Now instead of Mr. Right

"I want Mr. Right eventually, but for the time being, I've got needs, and Mr. Right Now will do just fine," says one young woman. But does this hurt her in the long run?

Emotions
I say yes. The way women are constructed makes it emotionally difficult for them to hit and run in the bedroom. The author Laura Sessions Stepp wrote a book on the subject: Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love and Lose at Both. She says "The way chemicals are released in the brain during intercourse is very different in men and women.

Oxytocin and testosterone
"In women, oxytocin is released. It's a chemical that makes women want to nurture their young and stay close. Men get a huge jolt of testosterone, which suppresses oxytocin, and that's nature's way of saying, 'Leave the nest and go sire offspring somewhere else.' So when women think they can have sex and walk away just like guys do, they're having to suppress thousands of years of evolution that tells them to cuddle, stay in bed, and look forward to tomorrow. When they get up and walk out, they feel depressed and don't know why."

Different design
Women, because they are the bearers and nurturers of children, are not designed by nature to have casual sex and feel all right about it. That is may be why alcohol-consumption rates are going up in women. They are taking part in these one-night-stand sexual encounters, believing they should be strong about it. And they' do it over and over again. At some point it denies their own biology and desires, so they drink in order to prepare for it, because it's not what they want to do. And they drink to dull the pain of the day after.

Risks
Casual sex has the well-known risks of sexually transmitted diseases but another risk is depression. Surveys show that, due to oxytocin, the shorter a relationship, the more likely it is for depression to be the aftermath.

Casual sex may make later relationships more difficult, particularly if it becomes a pattern. As Stepp says, "Trust is elusive. You don't learn how to trust someone; you don't learn how to treat someone in a caring way. And I think if you don't get to practice those things, it's going to be harder down the road to have a successful relationship or marriage."

So, sure, go out and find a man who turns you on and have fun with him, but don't hook up with him so soon. Wait until you know him better. The sex will be better too.

Love and Weight: Fat and Happy

People usually lose weight in the first few weeks of a new relationship. Eating a lot seems besides the point as they float in a dream of bliss. Also, appetite-suppressing adrenaline is pumping through their bodies and they are motivated to look good for their new love.

But I have noticed that after a few months, people in a cozy relationship start gaining pounds. A study from the University of North Carolina found that, over the course of five years, women in relationships in their late teens and early twenties put on more weight than single girls do.
And the stronger the bond, the greater the weight gain: Women who live with their men see the scale climb three additional pounds, and those who get married add an extra nine.

Why the poundage?
When you’re in love, “You consume 35 percent more food when you eat with someone you like,” says Brian Wansink, PhD, author of Mindless Eating. Then there are those bottles of romantic bottles of wine that you wouldn't drink on your own. “Unfortunately, the booze adds calories, lowers your willpower, and makes you more prone to diet-wrecking late-night eating,” says NYC nutritionist Martha McKittrick.

“After you’ve been in love for six months or so, the bonding hormone oxytocin takes over,” says psychologist Belisa Vranich. “It triggers cravings for comfort foods.” Comfort foods are fatty foods" ice cream, pizza, chips with lots of guacamole, mozzarella sticks, fries, popcorn with lots of butter, anything with lots of butter.

Skipping the gym
On top of that, skipping your Saturday morning gym routine to snuggle in bed, accelerates the downward spiral. Now, not only are you not moving enough but you need to have a romantic breakfast, with all the trimmings afterwards. Yes, sex burns calories, but not like a spinning or aerobics class. Before long, pounds are piling on.

Trouble ahead
Now trouble can brew in the relationship. “You think, I can pack on a few because he loves me for who I am,” says Vranich. “But your guy’s worrying that if he stays with you, you’ll balloon even more.” Also studies have shown that women's self esteem about their bodies plummet and make them feel self-conscious their bodies and thus be less provocative in bed.

Men can eat more
"Men require 25 to 40 percent more calories than women do, so take a third less than his portion,” advises McKittrick. Adds Wansink: “Studies show that the more attention a woman pays to how much she consumes on a date, the less she’ll eat. So right away understand that you are not created equal at the dinner table. A man's metabolism will burn up the fat faster than a woman's.

Work it
So don't skip your favorite kickboxing class, just because you are in love. Involve each other in active dates, like hiking, running, or biking. Couples who resolved to improve their eating and exercise habits together were shown to lose weight and maintained a healthy lifestyle 16 months later.

Not Tonight Baby Girl: Top 10 Reasons Men Don't Want Sex

"What's wrong with him? My man doesn't want to have sex. Don't all men want sex?" This is what one friend asked me the other day. That's a common misunderstanding and it's based on the mistaken belief that men are wired to want sex any time they can get it.

Here's a list of ten common reasons why men may not want sex:
1. Medications: Antidepressants (SSRI-type) and antihypertensives (blood pressure medication) are often the culprit when a man has a lowered interest in sexual activity. These can also cause sexual dysfunction. This is listed as reason #1 in my previous article "Not tonight, honey: The top 10 reasons women don't want sex."

2. Lack of sleep: When a man is in his teens or twenties, the opportunity to have sex will often overwhelm the desire to sleep. This is often true also when a relationship is brand new. But, as people and relationships age, sex can lose its urgent nature and a good night's rest can be quite tempting.

3. Hormonal levels: The most important physiological stimulant of sexual desire is testosterone. Also, too much prolactin and SHBG (sex hormone binding globulin) can suppress sexual desire. So when a hormonal reason is suspected, these are the blood tests to have (in order of importance): free testosterone, prolactin, SHBG, and total testosterone. It's interesting because the same is true for women.

4. Identity issues: When men feel uncertain about their role in the world, their desire for sex can decline. Depression may be linked to this, and feeling overwhelmed with worry. Identity issues can crop up when he has issues at work or is out of work, faces the death of an important family member, becomes disheartened about a formerly held strong belief, and questions his understanding of his own sexual orientation -- to name a few.

5. Turn-off to aspects of sex: He may feel criticized or treated unfairly. It may just seem like too much "work." He may have sexual interests that he knows or fears his partner may not share.

6. Interpersonal difficulties: When there are major disagreements between themselves and their partner, many men will avoid sex or just plain refuse their partner's advances. Some men punish their partner by withholding sex, but for others it's not a matter of punishment, they just cannot have sexual feelings when there are unresolved conflicts.

7. Stress: Stress comes in many forms and may stem from: financial difficulties, personal or family member illness, challenges at work, parenting dilemmas, and issues involving extended family members. Of course, there are many more sources of stress. Stress negatively impacts women's sexual desire as well.

8. Masturbation: that replaces partnered sex. Researchers in this field found that many men who might not have sought out magazines, videos, movies, have found their way to porn online. For some couples, this can be a problem, because the man has spent himself on his fantasy instead of on partnered sex.

9. Fear of intimacy: He's afraid to get involved with all the emotions that occur in a sexual relationship. He'd rather see you as a sister or mother and he can't have sex with his sister or mother. It doesn't feel right, so he avoids it.

10. Difficulties functioning sexually: Many men who have erectile dysfunction or believe that they ejaculate too soon, too late, or not at all, will avoid having sex with their partner. They don't want to look like "failures" so they choose to avoid being sexual at all.

So ladies, please don't criticize, belittle, or make jokes about his manhood when he does not want sex. That will definitely wilt him faster than an ice-cream cone melts in August. If you understanding the above causes can help you improve or remove the problem altogether.

Not Tonight Honey: Top 10 Reasons Women Don't Want Sex

10 reasons hit the top of the charts when when women say, "Not tonight, honey," according to researchers:
1. Use of oral contraceptives. Some women's sexual drive is decreased by the Pill (or any of the other hormonal approaches to birth control -- patch, ring, and shot).

2. Use of antidepressants. Prozac, Elevil, Paxil, etc., have been known to lower the sex drive of its users and to increase body weight, which impacts reason #10, body image.

3. Breastfeeding. Prolactin (the hormone that facilitates breastfeeding) decreases sexual interest. Plus a woman is sometimes reluctant to share her breasts with a man after the baby has been sucking on them for milk.

4. Lack of sleep. For most women, sleep comes before sex once the relationship has been established. This is a very common problem in today's sleep-deprived society.

5. Stress. Due to work, financial issues, educational stress, extended family, and other important issues in life. When stress is increased, many women do not see sex as a solution to it, it is just one more thing to take care of and clean up after.

6. Fights with their mate. Conflicting feelings and desires can play themselves out in refusing sex. A woman does not feel all warm and cuddly after continuous arguments.

7. Low levels of free testosterone. While knowing the level of total testosterone in the bloodstream can be helpful, finding out the free testosterone is very essential to discovering the possible physiological causes of low sexual desire.

8. High levels of SHBG. A woman with high levels of sex hormone binding globulin (SHBG), may have low sexual interest. This is because it combines with free testosterone (making it "unavailable") and that decreases libido.

9. Fear of intimacy. The inability to handle the level of intimacy that sex brings and maintains in a relationship is a very common reason for a decrease in sexual desire for one's partner.

10. Body image. Women who view themselves as unattractive to their mate and/or in their own mind's eye.

So if your girlfriend or wife has been turning over and going to sleep instead of having fun with you, check into the above reasons. Some of them can be solved medically. Some can be solved by a heart-to-heart talk, and others by taking care of the physical effects of exhaustion and poor body image by getting into a life pattern that includes enough rest and exercise.

Threesomes: Three's a crowd

Threesomes don't work if you are in a committed relationship. Period. I have seen too many couples break up over them. The emotional scars and hurt feelings, ranging from being the one "left out," to having one's spouse be more interested in the new partner and falling in love with the other person, are difficult to get past. I would be very interested in hearing about any threesomes that have resulted in long-term happiness, peace of mind, or complete satisfaction for all three partners.

I have only seen the tragically awkward and complicated sides of the threesome story. For both men and women, it is easy to develop feelings for someone you have been physically intimate with, since falling in love and having sex often go together. If either of you falls in love with the third partner, it becomes confusing outside of the bedroom. The woman can feel romantic outside the bedroom toward the other woman too, leaving the man out in the cold. Of course, the reverse could be true as well. The man can fall for the other man and abandon his original love interest.

Jealousy, also comes into the picture. The girl with smaller breasts may compare herself to the other woman and think that is why she is getting less attention, feeling ugly and worthless. One woman told me, "I did a threesome with another woman. My boyfriend and her were paying so much attention to each other, I began to feel neglected. I wondered if it was because I wasn't pretty enough, thin enough, or that my hair was the wrong color. Was he just bored with me? We broke up and I had to watch them become the new couple."

Therefore it is important to pay equal attention to both partners, or more to your spouse/significan other, but definitely not the other way around. Is that what you want? To keep tally of how much equal attention is being distributed?

Unless you can separate sex from love, I say stay away from threesomes. If one of the partners has an STD or gets pregnant, further complications arise. Sex and love are among the greatest joys in life. But if we take these matters trivially, lightly, without understanding the consequences, there is nothing but trouble ahead.

10 Health Benefits of Sex

Did you know that good sex is good for your health too? Each of these 10 health benefits of sex is backed by scientific data:

1. Sex Relieves Stress and Lowers Blood Pressure
. . .according to researchers from Scotland who reported their findings in the journal Biological Psychology. They studied 24 women and 22 men who kept records of their sexual activity. Then the researchers subjected them to stressful situations, such as speaking in public, and noted their blood pressure response to stress.

Those who had intercourse had better responses to stress than those who engaged in other sexual behaviors or abstained. Another study published in the same journal found that loving-partner sex was associated with lower diastolic blood pressure. Other research found a link between partner hugs and lower blood pressure in women.

2. Sex Boosts Immunity
Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections. Scientists at Wilkes University in Wilkes-Barre, Pa., took samples of saliva, which contain IgA, from 112 college students who reported the frequency of sex they had. Those in the "frequent" group -- once or twice a week -- had higher levels of IgA than those in the other three groups.

3. Sex Burns Calories
Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions.

4. Sex Improves Heart Health
Researchers found that having sex twice or more a week reduced the risk of fatal heart attack by half for the men, compared with those who had sex less than once a month.

5. Sex Boosts Self-Esteem
Gina Ogden, PhD, a sex therapist in Cambridge, Mass., says, "One of the reasons people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves. Great sex begins with self-esteem, and it raises it. If the sex is loving, connected, and what you want, it raises it."

6. Sex Improves Bonding and Trust
Having sex increases levels of the hormone oxytocin, the so-called love hormone, which helps us bond and build trust. "Oxytocin allows us to feel the urge to nurture and to bond," Britton says. Higher oxytocin has also been linked with a feeling of generosity. So if you're feeling suddenly more generous toward your partner than usual, credit the love hormone.

7. Sex Reduces Pain
As the hormone oxytocin surges, endorphins increase, and pain declines. So if your headache, arthritis pain, or PMS symptoms seem to improve after sex, you can thank those higher oxytocin levels.

8. Sex Reduces Prostate Cancer Risk
Australian researchers reported in the British Journal of Urology International followed men diagnosed with prostate cancer and those without. They found that men who had five or more ejaculations weekly while in their 20s reduced their risk of getting prostate cancer later by a third.
Another study, reported in the Journal of the American Medical Association, found that frequent ejaculations, 21 or more a month, were linked to lower prostate cancer risk in older men, as well, compared with less frequent ejaculations of four to seven monthly.

9. Sex Strengthens Pelvic Floor Muscles
For women, sex strengthen the pelvic floor area and helps to minimize the risk of incontinence later in life.

10. Sex Helps You Sleep Better
The oxytocin released during sex also promotes sleep, according to research. And getting enough sleep has been linked with a full range of other benefits, such as maintaining a healthy weight and blood pressure.

So you are doing something good for yourself when you are engaged in healthy, loving sex. What a great excuse to have more!

Are you ever too old to have sex?

Both men and women can continue to have sex to any age, according to experts, providing that both you and your partner are in good physical health and you are not hurting each other.
Even if intercourse is not possible, physical intimacy can take many forms. Sometimes getting older really does mean getting wiser about the many ways in which partners can bring each other pleasure.

Old Dads
The world’s oldest known father was an Australian called Les Colley, who was 92 when his ninth child was born. He died in 1998, just before his 100th birthday.

The world’s oldest new dad, an East Indian named Nanu Ram Jogi, has fathered his 21st child at the age of 90. He says that he plans to continue breeding for at least another decade.

Freedom for the Older Woman
Women find new freedom after menopause relieves them of the fear of getting pregnant. They can no longer bear children, unlike men who can continue to produce sperm indefinitely. Exceptions are women past menopause, who have been artificially inseminated or had in Vitro Fertilization.

They're doing it
A recent global aging survey of married men and women showed that 87% of married men and 89% of married women in the 60-64 age range are sexually active. Those numbers drop with advancing years, but 29% of men and 25% of women over the age of 80 are still sexually active.

It's good for you
Now studies are showing that sex is good for "older people." One recent study showed that men who have more than two orgasms per week have lower mortality statistics. But these numbers only demonstrate a correlation between sexual activity and longevity, they do not prove that sex prolongs life. What is probably true is that people who are well, and vigorous enough to engage in sexual activity are also healthier in general.

So keep giving each other pleasure and happiness, regardless of your age. If you're 85, you may not be able to assume all the positions in the Kama Sutra, but there is no reason not to enjoy your life to the last breath.